Is more often than not a misleading question.
We all are. We all constantly make decisions and act accordingly.
Our decisions influence how we relate to the world.
Someone who lets others find himself wherever he is has decided to let others define him.
Someone who decides to position himself has decided to act for himself and seeks to help others see himself. It’s the willingness to impact others.
How others see us remains their decision.
A decision may allow something to happen but it’s an illusion to believe that it will happen as a consequence of our decision. It’s enrollment that makes things happen.