In essence, there are two types of situations: one in which you get help and one in which you don’t get help.

We have become accustomed to seeing that the first one is the most valuable one in a cooperative or learning process. Eventually, it can be one that benefits all those involved. Take for example a situation in coaching where the coach is helping his client to find answers to his questions. It’s almost natural that both can learn from this process.

It has become a sign of quality if an organization provides support for its members.

While such support can be valuable, there is one situation in which it becomes a trap. It’s once the support becomes expected.

In a situation in which no help is available, there usually is only one solution to handle the situation. That’s by helping oneself and accepting the responsibility to do so.

Forgetting this responsibility to be involved leads to failing even when help is available.