Very often a problem that arises for us is a problem that can’t be solved by an individual.
Take for example wearing masks. If you believe that everyone should wear them and see that many people don’t, you’ll find yourself disturbed by the situation. Your values will be questioned, your sense of belonging too.
The only solution to this problem is to have the government put in a rule defining when to wear a mask. Such a rule must be based on a principle and has to describe what will happen if it isn’t followed.
Without a common rule, it becomes up to everyone to define what is right.
However, solving the problem from the top isn’t sufficient.
It still requires individuals to follow the rule and decide to wear a mask.
The fact that there is a rule that is common to all makes it easier on everyone. Instead of having a sense that the problem needs to be solved on a global level, the individual can trust that his actions at a local level will be sufficient.
It frees the energy from seeking to solve a problem that is out of one’s control. It gives the energy to address it at a local level. And with more energy available, asking others to wear a mask in one’s environment can be done in a kind and gentle way.
The trap is the assumption that the problem that arises needs to be solved.
It is by looking at what is in our control and by acting on this that results can be achieved. It is more effective if one accepts that the given contribution may not be successful.