There are probably two major approaches to dealing with differences within one’s group.

One of them is to judge or compare, that is in essence to decide if that difference between oneself and others is perceived as good or bad.

The other is to accept that such a difference exists and eventually become curious about it.

The first approach focuses on power, status, and other elements related to one’s position within the group hierarchy. That is, the question asked is one about transformation and who will be affected by it. Oneself or the group.

The second approach focuses on the willingness to engage with the perceived difference. It is a question of engagement; will one let the perceived difference be or will one allow for a reciprocal impact and change by becoming curious about it. It allows the idea that oneself and the group will change.