It takes time to build a relationship. And yet it’s immediately there.
What we actually mean, is that it takes time to feel safe in a relationship.
The faster we go, the more time it will need.
That’s because going fast doesn’t allow for the time to listen and even less to hear.
To be able to hear, we’ve got to be slower than the other gives time and space to how he shares.
As both slow down, rhythms align.
Eventually, we become able to hear ourselves.
That’s when we become able to share what it is that belongs to the relationship.
As it is heard, it becomes possible for us to feel safe.
Until the rhythm is lost again.