The desire to trust seems to be a natural move. And if they are not entirely sure, people take a leap of faith.

They do so until they find themselves in a situation in which they’ve lost trust or where something appears that triggers mistrust as if it had always been there.

A question more rarely asked is “What is right about not trusting?”

It’s a question that requires more work and leads into uncomfortable territory that may feel like having the potential to lose trust.

It invites one to think about all the things one needs to be able to trust.

Once this list exists, working through that list will depend on one’s willingness to care for oneself.