It’s easy to have an interpretation of the situation or other people’s behavior. Most often these interpretations are then offered as truth.

They are what that person sees or experiences.

They are that person’s reality.

For them, they are the truth.

There are at least two ways to deal with such truth. One approach is to assume one is right. Another approach is to allow for the possibility that other people may have a different view or reality.

Depending on the chosen approach, different dynamics will unfold.

Someone who believes he is right will not see any reason to question his reality. And if he sets out to share it, it easily will be through aggressive behavior like blaming the other. It also leads to a preference to stick around with a group of people who have similar “realities”.

Observing the dynamic that unfolds is a way to discover that one holds on to a truth that might not be shared. It’s an observation that permits going beyond one’s automatic reaction. Among the choices then available there will be one attempting to persuade the other of what is considered right. Another choice is to explore what both see and experience.

The usual shortcut, however, is to assume that one’s truth leads to everyone else being wrong.