Something to ponder when seeking to change
There are some concepts for self-development which can end up in a self-fulfilling manner.
Take for example the idea of resistance as described by Steven Pressfield. He describes resistance as a toxic force, one that arises from within and stops an individual’s creative activity. Resistance, according to him, may become visible in self-doubt, fear, insecurities, procrastination, lack of motivation, hiding, rationalizing or similar.
It’s closely connected to the voice of your inner critic.
And what an inner critic does is not only telling yourself a story but also validating that story where ever it can.
If you are worried about hiding, then it will start to see hiding in almost everything you do.
If you are struggling with self-doubt, then It will start to seek to eradicate self-doubt.
Once the idea to avoid hiding, self-doubt or similar has emerged it starts to fulfill the prophecy of resistance. It starts to work to get rid of what it perceives as problematic.
But hiding can be useful when there is a need and reason for security. And self-doubt should not be underestimated in its ability to help us recognizing errors before we make them.
It’s not about eradicating what we sense or do. It’s about being aware and accepting that it feels like being in our way without letting it be in our way.
It’s the fine nuance between seeking to be perfect and doing what feels right.
It’s not about who you are. It’s about what you do.