Once someone made up his idea on what the right approach is, it becomes easy for them to switch to advice mode.
It shows in the way they share the best solutions moving forward, explaining which one it is.
It shows in the way they seek to reassure others, telling them not to worry.
It shows in the way they argue, judging the other alternatives.
The thing is, this is telling others what to think. It works for those who think in the same way.
The others usually prefer someone who helps them figure out how to think about the idea.
It’s shifting from asking them to trust you, to engaging in trusting them.