Problem orientation comes along with the desire to have or create solutions.

A problem is not comfortable, thus the ambition to get rid of it. And, when people find themselves disliking the appearance of problems, they will automatically jump and search for a solution.

I believe that this is valid for almost everyone. The exceptions are those who found a way to accept the presence of discomfort as the natural companion of the existence of a problem. Once they learned to do this, they may be able to slow down their reaction to the discomfort. They can let it sit there as additional information about the problem. What they learned is, that they can transform their feeling into information instead of letting it steer their behavior.

The extra moment gained from slowing down their reaction created the space to choose their reaction. they had the time to decide to use their habitual response or choose a different reaction.

The challenge of learning this is, that the discomfort is often barely recognizable.

People have learned to live with it. It’s often such a well-known experience, that it will be discarded as normal when it starts to appear. The feeling has been numbed. It means, that an automatic system has already been installed to deal with discomfort.

Consequently, discomfort has become to be perceived as what is really disagreeable, which often is a much more engaged and emotional state than the first appearance of discomfort.

For many, this is even a reason for pride. However, they may confuse having silenced their feelings with a conscious choice. They lost track of the information.