Searching for balance means to search for equilibrium. It’s the search for a state where things are of equal weight or force. It’s a fragile state. Whenever there is a change on one side of the balance, it’s easy for things to come out of order.

The thing is, the search for balance most often is the wish to be able to distinguish one thing from the other or to separate them. It’s what boundaries do. They establish limits.

But boundaries do more. They serve to contain what’s within. They allow to keep the rest out. Being permeable, they allow for some interaction between both sides and adapt to the situation.

Our ability to use boundaries gives us the possibility to regulate integration as well to create safety.