That’s a good way to avoid connection and conversation.
If we only believe what we can see from other persons, it easily becomes “mindreading”. A process in which seeing a behavior equals the idea to assign meaning to it.
It can be a healing experience to experience a conversation where the other person’s contributions are based on mindreading.
It’s an occasion to learn more about how others react to us and how they see us.
It doesn’t need to be a pleasant experience. It does requires us to step outside of our comfort zone.
It works when we separate what we are being told about us from who we see ourselves to be.
If we don’t like it, it’s still not a reason to judge the other person.
We all do what we learned to do.