What people do is based on a story.

It is the story they’ve started to believe in as well as the story they’ve learned to confirm to themselves since.

There is nothing wrong with this. It has been what helped them to get to where they are.

However, going forward, the choice of story is relevant.

The longer the story stays we a person, the more evidence the person found that that story he tells himself is true. Based on that evidence it can become even harder to look at it as something that might not need to remain a reality. Or even as something that one can be honest about. Where being honest means the ability to see it as a belief that might not be related to reality.

It requires curiosity and the willingness to look at that story one owns from a different perspective.