The process of taking responsibility for one’s feelings doesn’t involve much action. It’s mainly the ability to stay with one’s feelings instead of “running away” from them.

We have many ways of running away from feelings. It can be by choosing to blame others for something that disturbs us. It can be discarding one’s feelings as irrelevant. It can be trying to dismantle them. Basically, it is anything that prevents us from noticing the feeling itself.

When we assume that we are our feelings and thoughts, when we believe that our feelings and thoughts are true, we let go of meeting them. It makes us believe that there is nothing to learn from them.

Noticing a feeling is nothing more than witnessing it. It is the opportunity to notice something we experience without bias, judgment, or any other mechanism we developed to protect us from being hurt.

The reason we talk about “taking responsibility for one’s feelings” is that we allow ourselves to know what we may be responsible for. Such responsibility includes caring for oneself.