When focusing on one’s desire for harmony, it rarely emerges.

That’s because much of one’s thinking will be focused on the risk that it might not happen, that things might not be harmonious. Consequently, much of what happens is viewed through the lens of such a risk.

It also transforms how one approaches a conversation with someone else. Agreeing becomes the priority instead of allowing for an exploration of the possible.

It’s nuances. But their impact transforms how people relate to one another.

In such light, respect and appreciation, for example, tend to be seen as synonyms of harmony. But that’s not what they are, nor what harmony is.

Harmony has little to do with agreeing, which is focused on similarity. Harmony lives on differences.