A natural reaction is to want the things one doesn’t like to go away and to want the things one likes.

However, when it comes to personal development, this is often the least motivating reason to change. It implies that one doesn’t like oneself, gives oneself less credit for who one is, and values more who one could be. It establishes an attitude that things should be different.

A slightly different approach is to value oneself and one’s ability to change and what it will serve one to do and be. It transforms the idea to change into an intentional choice within the circumstances of change as it happens. It means adapting to the circumstances to transform those within control.