There is no way to escape the presence of tensions. They appear as a dilemma or choice that isn’t immediately resolved.

It can be the choice between chocolate or vanilla ice cream. It can be the challenge to decide if one can let go of one’s best employee. Or it can be the desire to buy something that prevents another plan.

Some of these tensions are simple and barely noticeable, while others require an elaborate process to reach a decision. They will be experienced as a pull between two polarities and allegiances. The so-called work-life balance is a typical example of such distinct allegiances.

Most of us have a preference for one of both. And our choices tend to reflect that preference. Ultimately it leads to the shadow aspects of each position to surface.

The tension is a reflection of needing both sides of the polarity. It is an invitation to explore how one side overshadows the other. But also how it interferes with the well-being and productivity of those involved.