It’s certainly not new that even though there are times when “life shouldn’t be like that” it is like it is.

It’s quite entertaining to imagine what one could have done to prevent it from being like that. And it is interesting to imagine how life should be. These reactions allow one to take a step back and determine what one would like life to be or what one has learned from past events.

From there, what will often be forgotten, is to look at how life is in that given moment. Allowing oneself that observation is the ability to accept the situation one is in as it is. What it isn’t, is the decision to keep it as is.

Being aware of how the situation is is what allows us to learn what it is that we’d want to be different, and thus to make the choices needed to start changing the situation.

An aspect of making such choices is to distinguish between the things one can change in this moment and that one has no control of.

It’s hard to imagine that there would be nothing one would have control over.  It’s easier to imagine that changing that detail will not immediately transform life into what one would want it to be. But that’s not a reason not to decide to change it.