There is no big difference between assuming one knows, making shortcuts, or being judgmental. It might sound as if one or the other item on the list is a bad thing to do, whereas the other might happen by inadvertence.

I’d like to leave that assessment to others and the given context. Discussing other people’s intentions is generalizing something that depends on the situation and the people involved. It’s establishing a label that is attributed to the behavior of the person and thus pulling our attention away from the consequence of their behavior.

It’s teaching people by making them feel guilty instead of teaching people by letting them have an insight.

In this video, Ted Lesso demonstrates how he learned to read the lack of curiosity and use it to his benefit. How others underestimate him by forgetting to ask questions enables him to win over others. However, in doing as he does, he also takes revenge and might have earned an enemy for life.

It’s wise to choose when winning is the most important thing and in which context it might be satisfying for everyone.