The idea to compare things is a very normal one, it happens all the time and helps when it comes to deciding which item will be the right one for us.

Comparing comes into a different light, when it comes to comparing ourselves with others, these are the situations in which we enter a competition to see who is better than the other, who wins. Comparing can then become a fight to be the better one, the one who is right, the one who has success, the one who …

I’ve noticed, that we often don’t even realize that we are comparing us with each other and even less that it results into an idea to want to be “the one”. Without realizing it, the relationship will then have changed from a cooperative and open-minded situation into one based on adversity, at least on that subject. The switch is subtle and yet profound. It happens easily and quickly.

I’m not sure that it is the natural way of things, but I’m quite sure that it is linked to the idea of having to be right to succeed. We’ve started to learn this early one, for example in school to pass exams. Today, it’s making teamwork complicated.